Of Followings, Comments, and Likes

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I have been seeing a trend among the writers of today on WP that they are quick to start ‘following’ the author. While that in itself is encouraging, I wonder why they do that. Why do they follow, if they are not going to exert their opinion on any post that the author has written?

Next, I have seen recently many people “like” a post. That again is very nice of them to like it. But I wonder why is it that they like it. Do they really like it, or they just go and click on the like box, without reading the post, and think, “okay, my duty is done. I have let the author know that I like it!”

But if you really and truly like a post, don’t you think you should say a word or two about it as a comment? Some authors write such excellent, soul searching, and thought provoking posts (Murisposis, and Doesitevenmatter3 come to mind among others), and I would never go to their posts and just click on the like box to let them know that I have visited their sites. They deserve more respect than a click on the like box.

Think about it.

Is it because people think they are too busy to sit and read? Or is it because they consider it a feather in the cap for following a hundred people? Or letting them know that they have done their two cents worth by liking it?

Personally, I think it is boring to see several likes in the form of email messages crowd the in box. I know that all of us who were blessed to be part of the Xanga community continue to write great comments on the posts..(slmret, Nocturnal Twins, Michel Fouquet, Val and others come to mind) When a person comments on my post, I find it easy to go and reciprocate at their site. It just makes me happy that someone I do not know personally bothered to read my work and leave a comment. If I just see a ‘like’ thingamajik, I tell myself, ‘meh, she/he probably didn’t even bother to read what I have written. Because, if she had read it, then surely she would have realized the effort it went into writing the post, or providing photos or what have you. I think it is all about reciprocity. When you give, you receive.

I am so happy that I still have such dear friends from my Xanga time who come to my pages and bother to read, really read what I have written and take time to make me feel good that I wrote.

That is my two cent worth rant of the day.

About Zakiah

I write poetry and some fiction, have a book that was published in 2012. . . Stray Thoughts/Winged Words. I have four grandchildren, ages 16 and half to almost 16 months. I love the ocean, and grew up along the Indian Ocean in South India. I am a retired physician. Don't know much else to say. Thanks for reading. That has been my profile for so many years. My daughter Saadia a great poet and story teller, has two sons; the oldest grandson is now 21 years old, doing architectural engineering at Missouri S&T in Rolla MO. His younger brother is almost 16 and taking driving lessons seriously and is in High School. The other two grandsons, children of my son Sayeed, are 9 and 5. I have recently published another book titled Gulistan, A home of Flowers. It has stories and memories of my childhood and of a distant land which I still consider as my HOME., even though I have lived here in the US for more than fifty years. Hope to see you on my blog.
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31 Responses to Of Followings, Comments, and Likes

  1. I think people have different ways of interacting with a blog. Part of it may be what they are used to, what they are comfortable and what they want. In some social media platforms like Instagram or Twitter, getting likes is good. Most people don’t leave a comment. That’s just the way it is. Years ago when I looked at Tumblr, it was mostly likes and reposts. Twitter is also similar – likes and retweets.

    Some people just want to read and don’t want anything more than that. Others just want to skim through entries. Some of our average entries are simply too long. When I moved to WP, it took me a while to get used to this platform. I like comments and feedback and to engage with others. I’m also ok if people just read / skim / ignore my entries. That’s just the way it is here. I follow a few blogs with lots of followers and they don’t get a lot of comments. It’s mostly likes.

    • Zakiah says:

      Thank you for your comment Matt. I love to get comments. It just makes me feel so comfortable that someone bothered to read my post and felt moved enough to say a few words.
      I write on a blog from India, a blog of my city and most of us are very involved with it. I get so many comments on it, and that makes me happy.

  2. slmret says:

    I also find that my comments vary by site — for some people there is always something that comes to mind that would be interesting to others, or to the original poster; for others, there’s not always anything that I feel would contribute anything by commenting. Your posts always spark some interesting thought!

    • Zakiah says:

      I agree with you. Different posts elicit different responses. When you take the trouble to get out, do amazing photography and post them, the least i can do is marvel at the beauty you have captured and shared with us. Even a few words mean a lot.

  3. murisopsis says:

    Hmm. I think I may be a little bit guilty. I always like the posts I read and I mostly comment on the posts I like. But there are times when I get to a post late and every one has already posted (50 -100) comments and I just can’t say anything new – those posts will get a “like” and I will only comment when I have something unique to add to the conversation. I guess that is how I approach it – a conversation. There are several people standing in a small group. Someone speaks and several others reply. I will stand and nod in agreement (a like). If I don’t have anything to add I’ll remain silent but I want the group to know I’m listening…
    I have noticed that there are a ton of monitized sites that follow anyone and everyone they can. All their posts are about selling something. I don’t comment or follow those sites.

    • This description is also I approach it. I am finding that on most social media sites, I need to avoid just “liking” posts because it’s one of the ways the ad tracking algorithms track what we “like.” I am thinking about just randomly googling and liking items that I don’t really like to throw off the ad tracking because it’s annoying. I, like you, also appreciate the comments and community from our xanga community and barely notice the “likes” on this platform as well as on other platforms. WordPress is a very special platform for me, probably my favorite because of you and the others in our community because it’s taken a long time to get to know each other and we actually take the time to comment and “see” each other; so thank you, Zakiah for always taking the time to “hear” us!!!!!

      • Zakiah says:

        Thank you dear S, for the kind comment and appreciating my work. I apologize at this confusion of my response to Val “Murisposis” which ended up as a response to your post.
        Like i have said above, I love to receive comments, and feel that my words are not all bad for someone to like them. Your comments have always made me very very happy. Thank you.,

    • Zakiah says:

      Oh, I am sure all of us are guilty of that to a certain extent. When i am in a situation where a lot of people have commented already and have basically shared similar thoughts and words, I just say, “I agree with—-” or, just let them know that ” I do not have anything more to say than what every one else has said above.” And i always try to “like” the post.

    • Zakiah says:

      Sorry Val, my reply to you ended up below Sweetspontaneous’comment. I have copied it here for you. Pfffttt!

      Zakiah says:
      July 4, 2020 at 7:34 pm (Edit)
      Oh, I am sure all of us are guilty of that to a certain extent. When i am in a situation where a lot of people have commented already and have basically shared similar thoughts and words, I just say, “I agree with—-” or, just let them know that ” I do not have anything more to say than what every one else has said above.” And i always try to “like” the post.

  4. whyzat says:

    So.etimes, I like a post, but don’t have anything to contribute. The “like” is more of an, “I see you and acknowledge you.” I comment when my mind is more lively, which isn’t often these days.

    • Zakiah says:

      These days are bad for all of us. The year 2020 should be erased completely from our TIMES. Thank you for stopping by Dian. I hope you are doing well, and the weather in Iowa is suiting you just fine, regardless of the times we are living in. Hope your father is doing well.

  5. mrswrangler says:

    I am not good about discovering new blogs unless a fellow blog recommends them. For the most part I only follow anyone who follows me if they interact with me. I try to comment on post of friends.

  6. Rupali says:

    You have said what was in my mind for such a long time. It is easy to pay visit to blogs who say some words.
    Instead of give and take of likes I always prefer exchange of thoughts. In all these years I learn a lot about life through so many versatile blogs.

  7. A post definitely worth more than 2 cents! I’ve wondered the very same things, SweetZ!

    I guess everyone blogs differently. And sometimes people just don’t know what to say. Or they feel they don’t have anything to add. And that’s okay by me.

    I think we are spoiled from Xanga (such an amazing experience I am so glad many of us had! 🙂 ). There will never be another blog site, or any social media site, that is anywhere near as amazing as Xanga.

    Clear back to my first blog on Xanga…up until today….I am still so amazed that anyone reads my blog, and then that some people leave a comment…wowza! I’m humbled and honored! 🙂 All of you fellow bloggers mean so much to me! I don’t take your comments for granted. I deeply appreciate them! You all have taught me, challenged me, encouraged me, comforted me, made me laugh, inspired me, helped me, ETC!!! 🙂

    Thank YOU, SweetZ, for being someone who cares! When I think of you, I think of heart, talent, wisdom, compassion, helping, healing, teaching, encouraging and so many other things! (Too many to list here!) I thank you for being a friend to so many of us! 🙂

    (((HUGS))) 🙂 And please keep blogging! We need you here!!!

    • Zakiah says:

      We are so spoiled from xanga, no doubt. The emoticons, the comments, the Pulse, all that is such a distant memory. The camaraderie of friends in cyber space was so enchanting. I hope we all can continue to be of support and to each other.

  8. jeff markowitz says:

    I have largely stopped blogging (my site is currently set to private while I figure out whether or not I want to keep it) but I still visit wordpress from time-to-time to say hello to xnga friends. I hope you’re well and staying safe.

    • Zakiah says:

      Jeff! OMG, what a pleasant surprise! Thank you for your comment. How have you been and what are you writing now? Have you published more books? I had one new one self-published last year, titled Gulistan: A Home of Flowers.
      I am well, and adjusting to the lockdown of our lives. Please keep in touch. I have thought of you several times and wondered about you and your beautiful books. Take care. Hope the family is doing well. Best regards.

      • jeff markowitz says:

        We are doing well and staying safe. I was supposed to have a new book this year, and also a new story in an anthology, but both projects have been delayed until next year. All best.

  9. michnavs says:

    I remembered my first exchange of conversation with kate of calmkate is about likes too. And i agree with you one should take the necessary effort to read the post before even hitting the like button.

    Val and Carolyn do have very thougthful posts..Val’s poetry are really excellent..and Carolyn’s humor in her post really makes my day beautiful.

  10. Val says:

    I get all your posts in my email and mostly read them there. I used to comment on nearly all the posts of all the blogs I followed but since I got ill last year and then when all this coronavirus started worldwide with its associated stresses, I’ve barely been in my own blogs let alone other peoples. I just don’t have the energy, nor am I able to concentrate for long. As for the Like button – I hate it. I try to avoid using it in other people’s blogs as I think a comment doesn’t need an accompanying Like as well. But I dislike it so much that i’ve turned it off in all my blogs (I’ve three blogs now!) It can also be turned off in notifications, and you can turn it off in email so you won’t be bothered by it. I never see likes via email now.

    But I do enjoy your posts even though I rarely comment.

    • Zakiah says:

      Dear Val, I have missed seeing you. I hope your illness from last year, is gone by now and that you are healthy and cheerful (if at all possible in times like these.)
      I am sure there are many reason for a person’s energy getting sapped and for the lack of concentration, and I pray that it is the summer heat and humidity that is making you listless.
      Thank you for your attention to my post. I have always loved hearing from you. I wish you well, I wish you health, and I wish you peace and blessings.

      Thank you for reading my posts. Much love.

  11. This is such a worthy rant, Zakiah. I agree entirely. If I “like” a post it always means I have read it, even if I don’t make a comment. I have just visited yours because you made a sound comment on mine

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