SO, I met this chick about fifteen years ago at the hospital. She was an Indian, and worked in the lab. I started talking to her, and i thought she was quite good, and had some class. (!!!) Took her to lunch at the Country Club when she said she was leaving town. She told me that she would stay in touch and would send me the recipe of a special dish that M liked very much. She requested for a letter of recommendation, and hoped she could use my name as a reference. I was just… too happy to give it to her.
I heard from her about seven years later. She was sorry she didn’t keep in touch and she had not forgotten about the recipe and would send it soon. She also told me that she was moving to a different town in Texas and wondered if she could use my name as a reference. I thought it was kind of odd, but told her that yes, she could use my name. She promised me that she would definitely keep in touch, and will send the recipe. (I did not believe her.) 🙂 🙂
She called today. I didn’t answer the phone. it had been about four or five years since she had last called. The message she left was something like this.” Dr. Ali, i have been thinking of you a lot.I hope you are doing well. I hope you remember me. I need to speak to you. I have the recipe that you wanted some years back. Please call me, i am moving to a different town, and would like a letter of recommendation from you.”
WHAT?? WHAT???
When I didn’t answer the phone she called me on my cell phone. I blocked her.
It was because of this, that i got a headache today, and thought to myself, I am such a stupid sucker, and allow people to take advantage of me. And this was the reason for my earlier post on face book and on WordPress.
Now you know the rest of the story! Ta daa~! 😉 😉 🙂
Heheh – and Ah well, just consider that you did someone a favor I suppose. I read the full rant before the half rant. Your lawn and your yellow (daffodils?) are beautiful. 🙂
Love the photo of the seagulls too. Did you take it?
If you haven’t seen her for 15 years of so, I think she probably should have more recent references than yours — other than that, I don’t think you need to beat yourself up as a sucker — I think you are doing the right thing not providing her references. As far as talking with her, that’s up to you, whether or not you want to encourage the friendship — but 15 years is a long time with only one contact in between. As for the recipe — well, that one seagull looks a little hungry 🙂 ! I love the seagull shot!
I don’t know if she would want you for a reference now–you might have some unpleasant things to say!
It’s hard to take care of friendships when there is distance, but there needs to be some effort on both sides! I think you did the right thing ignoring her. If she wants a friendship, she should send you the recipe for starters!
I don’t think you are a sucker. I think you are compassionate and look for/believe in the best in most people. I would have been just like you the first two times..and the third? Probably answered the phone and told her what I thought of her..so you handled it better than I would have.
love and hugs my friend.
You did the right thing. She hasn’t done anything in so many years and she expects a letter of recommendation?
You are not a sucker! You are kind, sweet, helpful, compassionate!
You hung in there longer than most would.
Sounds like she only wants/needs you for letters of recommendation. 😦
You have every right to say “Enough. No more.”
People like this make my heart hurt. 😦
(((HUGS)))
PS…the gulls in flight are spectacular! 🙂
Some people don’t have no shame !
Find a solace , Zakiah with the great show of the seagulsl and your yellow irises
Love ❤
Michel
oh wow. i would be embarrassed to even ask for another recommendation.