The Victim

Some of you might remember when I had talked about the mother who has five children, each child by a different father, and each father in a different prison scattered over the state? Well, the mother just gave birth to her sixth child! She has custody of the two year old and the new baby. The other four siblings are with different foster parents.

Yesterday I was in the court for a long time. The oldest of the children, a boy who is 9 years old, was finally surrendered. The mother had talked to us last week and told us that she didn’t want the boy, and that she was willing to give him up for adoption. Yesterday, the father of this boy was brought in by the deputies. His ankles were in shackles as were his wrists. I was shown the letter he has written to his son. This is the gist of that letter. It was full of spelling mistakes, and I am typing the whole thing as I remember.

Dear —– —–

I have to rite this letter to you to apolgize for not being a good father. You are a good son. I want you to be a good boy and study well. I know I won’t be oble to give you a good life. I hope I can get out of prison before you get out of skool. I am sorry that I have to give you up for adoption. I think you will be oble to have a better life in a new home and with othr people who will love you more than I could. I wish I were not a bad man. I hope I can look you up wen I get out.

This is your father— —-

It was hard for me to look at this guy sitting not too far from me. The judge asked him if he was making the decision by himself, or if he was coerced into acting thus. To which the guy said that he just didn’t want his child to keep going from one foster home to another. He wasn’t sure how it would be in ten years when he would finally get out of the prison, so he had decided by himself that the child would have a better life if he were adopted by someone who would care for him.

It was tough for me to listen to this. There are three more kids that will be going through the same procedure come April and June. I hope the family that has the kid now, will continue to have him, because that is a good home, with no other children, and the man is a pastor, and his wife is a prison guard. I was told yesterday that the mother of this child, used to be in that home as a foster kid many years ago, until she was six or seven years old.

What a cycle of life! How sad that a little child becomes a victim of abuse.


About Zakiah

I write poetry and some fiction, have a book that was published in 2012. . . Stray Thoughts/Winged Words. I have four grandchildren, ages 16 and half to almost 16 months. I love the ocean, and grew up along the Indian Ocean in South India. I am a retired physician. Don't know much else to say. Thanks for reading. That has been my profile for so many years. My daughter Saadia a great poet and story teller, has two sons; the oldest grandson is now 21 years old, doing architectural engineering at Missouri S&T in Rolla MO. His younger brother is almost 16 and taking driving lessons seriously and is in High School. The other two grandsons, children of my son Sayeed, are 9 and 5. I have recently published another book titled Gulistan, A home of Flowers. It has stories and memories of my childhood and of a distant land which I still consider as my HOME., even though I have lived here in the US for more than fifty years. Hope to see you on my blog.
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19 Responses to The Victim

  1. Humor_Me_Now says:

    It is very hard to break these dreadful cycles. It is dreadful.

  2. erikamsteele says:

    It is really sad. I think it is hard but not impossible to break the cycle. I think in his way, that is what the father was trying to do.

    • Zakiah says:

      But the child gets to go through such a hard life though. It is indeed very sad,

      • erikamsteele says:

        I think of it as the father saying that it is too late for him to be there for his child and he is nit going to be selfish and let his child stay in fostercare when the child could be adopted. It is what I would do. It wouldbe sadder if he did not sign his kids over for adoption. The ideal thing would be for the mom to give them the love they deserve, but she won’t so he is doing the only thing he an do from where he is at. The child was going to have a hard life because of who his birth parents were. There could still be hope.

  3. digitalgranny says:

    Yes this is so sad and so wrong.
    I may get some flack about saying this but states need to have a law to tie the tubes of women like this.
    They show from their first child on that they should shave never become a Mother.
    And in a few more years the other two will be sitting in court like their siblings.
    The two with the mother should be removed now and given a chance to be raised in a loving home.
    I know I sound harsh and it would so hard for me to sit there and watch these poor little ones walk this path set out before them by their parents.

    • Zakiah says:

      No Ruthie, you don’t sound harsh. You are being totally realistic with the way our society faces these challenges. This is not a good mother. She has no respect or love for the children, and she thinks she is a baby producing machine. Besides these six kids, she had five pregnancies terminated.

      • digitalgranny says:

        Oh how awful and sending prayers and good vibes for the future of her poor children who will have to suffer for being brought into the world by her.

  4. This is so very sad. 😦
    The cycle is very difficult to break…but we must not give up trying.

    My job while I was in college was working at a Sheltered Care Home…abused, abandoned, and neglected children ages birth -18 were put in our care while it was decided if they would be put in foster homes or go back to their families. What you have shared reminds me of so many of the children I saw come and go…some just stayed for days…others stayed for months and months…I tried to have a positive impact on their lives.


    • Zakiah says:

      Yeah I see those situations here too. Little babies and then some grown up kids. Unfortunately not all foster homes are kind to the little kids. I have seen both sides of the coin.

  5. I think the father has more sense than the mother. At least he seems to recognize that it’s the best choice, rather than the mom that just doesn’t seem to want the kid.

    And I agree with Ruth ~ there are some cases where people should be forcibly sterilized. No one should be allowed to put so many children through such a difficult life.

    • Zakiah says:

      Excuse the expression, the mother is a total ‘ho’. You should see the way she dresses to come to the court. I feel embarrassed looking at her.

      • How is the mother not in jail for child abuse/neglect? Because that’s exactly what she’s doing?

        Take her kids, all of them. Turn them over to families that will watch over them, keep them fed and safe and loved, and put her somewhere that she can never do this again.

    • Zakiah says:

      She WAS in jail for about a year for doing meth in her home, and cooking etc. I have a feeling that she will go back to jail once she starts doing it again. But so far her urine is negative. She DOES take care of the infant well, even though I say that tongue in cheek.

  6. Vivek says:

    At least the father has the sense to recognize that the child deserves the best care possible. So sad!

  7. This is a sad situation. It’s not uncommon, though. I never understand why people are like this.

  8. jeweliedeer says:

    just breaks one’s heart. very sad.

  9. Zakiah says:

    Yeah I know. It is so tragic.

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